The Challenge
For the next 100 days, you will set aside dedicated, intentional time for your wife every single day. This isn’t about extravagant, expensive dates (though go for it if you want). It’s about consistent effort—making her feel seen, valued, and appreciated in ways that matter.
The Rules
- Every day, do something intentional – It could be a date, a deep conversation, a handwritten note, or simply shutting off your phone and being present.
- Reserve special time – Even 15-30 minutes of undistracted connection is better than autopilot co-existence.
- Plan at least one “bigger” date per week – This doesn’t mean spending money, but it does mean effort: a walk, a planned activity, or even cooking together.
- Be thoughtful – Anticipate what would make her smile, lighten her load, or remind her why she married you in the first place.
- Document the journey – Whether you journal it, take a daily photo, or just reflect on the experience, track your effort.
Clear Goals
- Consistency – Show up every single day with an act of love or intentional time together.
- Reconnection – Strengthen emotional and physical intimacy by being truly present.
- Surprise & Delight – Rediscover the joy of making an effort instead of taking things for granted.
- Better Communication – Foster openness by creating space for meaningful conversations.
Measurements & Tracking
- Daily Log – Write down what you did, how it felt, and any insights.
- Weekly Reflection – Assess what worked, what didn’t, and how you can improve.
- Partner Feedback – Every so often, ask her what she’s noticed and how she’s feeling.
How to Get Started
- Make a List – Jot down easy, meaningful things you can do each day (hugs, compliments, inside jokes, little surprises, etc.).
- Schedule It – Put a time block in your day where you will focus on her, no matter what.
- Plan a Weekly Date – Decide on a dedicated, slightly bigger effort once per week.
- Just Start – Don’t overthink it. The effort is what matters most.
By the end of 100 days, your relationship will feel stronger, deeper, and more intentional. Ready to remind her why she married you?